My Journey Into Freelance Writing-Part 2 (The one where I confess my first BIG mistake.)

Freelance Writing Big Mistake

I started my journey into freelance writing about a year ago and I started my first blog about four years ago. Unfortunately, I deleted it…so that stinks. While that was a mistake, it wasn’t my first big mistake.

Nope, this mistake takes the cake. It’s also something I believe a lot of beginning writers and bloggers make. (At least I hope I’m not the only one.)

One of Gina’s first lessons in the freelance writing course offered on her blog, Horkey Handbook,  emphasizes finding your niche and why it’s so important. Finding your niche is a hot topic in the freelance world, not just the freelance writing biz. When I began to dabble in photography, I was told to narrow down my niche. Would it be birth photography? Newborns? How about weddings? The same applies to freelance writing and blogging.

Here is where I made my first big mistake.

My original niche list looked something like this:

  • Parenting
  • Christian Living
  • Mommy-hood
  • Ministry & Ministry Wives
  • Homeschooling (or lack thereof)
  • Faith

I was a little discouraged with that list. There are already a ton of mommy bloggers and freelance writers and a large portion of them are Christian homeschooling moms! My efforts to break into the freelance and blogging world with those niches would be futile, at best.

So I made another list. It looked more like this:

  • Faith
  • Health/Fitness
  • Finances
  • Recipes/Cooking

Because those are niches that people are interested in and I stand a better chance in this highly saturated market if I take up niches that I know very little about and have very little time and energy to research. (Are you catching the sarcasm here?)

My first BIG mistake was in thinking I had nothing to contribute in the niches I felt most accurately represented who I am, what I know, and who I speak to. Instead, I decided to venture into niches I thought people would want to hear more about. Not only was I unsuccessful in this, but I was bored out of my mind.

I allowed the little voice inside my head to convince me that I had nothing of value to offer amongst the sea of Christian, homeschooling, mommy bloggers. 

That voice was wrong. And, if your little voice is being a negative Nancy, you put it in its place. Right now.

I do have something to offer and so do you. For me, it’s my style and my perspective in my previously mentioned niches. I am a different mom than other mommy bloggers, I have different homeschool experiences and my role as a minister’s wife offers a unique perspective amongst the Christian lifestyle writers. For this realization, I am thankful. 

What about you? Has your little voice been bringing you down? 

P.S. Thank you to those of you who followed me through that rough “I need a niche that I know very little about” stage.  Sorry, you aren’t getting any more updates on my weight loss.  For now at least. Lots of love to you!



My Journey Into Freelance Writing

Freelance Writing

About a year ago I stumbled upon this website and it stirred up a little interest. I have always loved to write and I’m always looking for ways to add a little extra income to our family, especially in a way that would allow me to stay home with our kiddos. I kept coming back to the site and I read numerous reviews before approaching my husband about the idea of investing in Gina’s freelance writing course. 

Over the course of a few weeks, I found myself returning to the site which led me to seek out and read numerous reviews before making the decision to approach my husband about the idea of investing in Gina’s freelance writing course. Now, my husband is a “call it like he sees it” kind of guy so I knew he would be honest with me about whether or not writing professionally would be something that I could pursue. 

His response? Absolutely. Do it. We’ll find the funds and we’ll do it.

Ugh. The next hurdle. The funds. For us, the Starter Package was a more achievable amount so we did what we do best and we prayed about it.

Guess what? He totally did it. He had someone gift me the money for the course without the giver even knowing what I was praying for or how much the course cost. She just handed me a card with the money in it and told me she felt God moving her to give this gift to me. 

Now, I did what most mothers would do in that situation. After praising God for this gift, I contemplated whether there was something else I should send the money on. Groceries? Christmas gifts? Necessities? Wouldn’t it be foolish for me to spend this money on me? Eventually, I decided the answer was to use it for the course as I believe that is what God had intended the gift for. 

So, here I am, nearly a year later with only a few ghost-writer jobs in my pocket. To be honest, I got discouraged. I pitched a few articles and when they were rejected my heart broke a little bit so I took a little break.

I began the course again last week and plan on finishing it successfully this time and I’m inviting you to come along for the ride. Sign up to receive my email updates and I’ll keep you updated on my progress!!

Also, if you could be praying for me, that would be great. Putting myself out there is a bit scary!!

When was the last time you took a step of faith that took a lot more courage than you thought it would?

P.S. If you’ve ever thought about earning a little extra cash from home, check out Gina Horkey’s website. She offers a Virtual Assistant course too! 

4 Steps to Parenting Unapologetically

Parenting UnapologeticallyParenting is not for the faint-hearted. It is a nonstop, incredibly demanding, often moving in circles while talking to brick walls, kind of life. Thankfully, there are plenty of  parenting blogs and unsolicited advice from well-intentioned (and some not so well-intentioned) sources to damage a parent’s self-esteem for them. Often free of charge. 

Nay, I say. No more. The time has come to Parent unapologetically. Follow these steps to become a more confident, secure parent.

Step # 1: Identify Your Priorities

Without overthinking it, sit down and make a list of your priorities. What do you spend most of your time doing? What is important to you? What are you willing to make sacrifices for? Make sure to identify the things you truly value. Avoid adding to the list items you think you should value.

When it comes to determining what is most important it’s necessary to remember that it’s impossible to say yes to everything. Knowing what your priorities are is a vital component to parenting unapologetically. Identifying your priorities allows you to make the best decisions for you and your family.

That brings us to our next step.


Step #2 Make Decisions Based Upon Your Priorities

I realize this sounds obvious, but it’s not as easily put into practice as one might think. Go ahead, try it. Think about what you spend most of your time doing. Where is most of your energy being expended? If you were to now create another list; this one being an inventory of how your time is spent, would it match your priority list?


We choose to cosleep. Because this.


For some, the lists are practically spot on. However, I believe that is probably the exception and not the rule. If your lists don’t match up; what changes can you make in your schedule to reflect your values and priorities? Are you willing to make those changes? 

A woman was telling me how she longed to add to her family and stay at home with her children but she was unable to do this because she had to work overtime nearly every week to pay for her mortgage. Her energy expenditure did not align with what she believed her priorities to be. Could she downsize to save money on her mortgage which would allow her to stay home? Or did she value the prestige that came with owning that home in that neighborhood more than she had originally thought?

Which, again, brings us to the next step (see how this works?):

Step # 3: Own Your Decisions

You’ve listed your priorities and you’ve made decisions to reflect them so don’t second guess them. If you’ve taken the time and thoroughly thought through the choices you’ve made, then own them. Take comfort in knowing that you are making the best decision for you and for your family at this time in your lives. Maybe these decisions will change with circumstances, but, for now, anyway, these are the decisions you have made.

Own it.

Live it.

You stay at home instead of working full time? Great, own it.

You chose disposable diapers over cloth? I don’t blame you. Own it.

You choose to work two jobs so you can invest thousands of dollars into your daughter’s dream of becoming an Olympic gold medalist? Super. Own it.

These are your choices. There is no need to make excuses for them. They are yours. Own them.

Step #4 (It’s a Doozy) Allow Other’s to Own Their Decisions 

This is probably the most difficult for the majority of people. This is when it is important to remember that your priorities are not their priorities. 

This is okay.

The fact that we are all created to be individuals who will ultimately have different priorities and make different choices is an indispensable component in this life.

Embrace it.

It’s time to Parent Unapologetically.